Tuesday, February 4, 2014

Why do you homeschool?

I get asked that nearly every week… and I tend to ask myself that just as often.  Why do we homeschool?  It is definitely NOT the easiest way to give our children an education… sending them to school for 7 hours per day to have the paid professionals do it is WAY easier.  So, why did we choose to homeschool with the good school system that we have here and the great Christian schools all around town?

There are many reasons that we have chosen this for our family, but here is the biggest one…  We were convicted by the Holy Spirit through Deuteronomy 6:4-9.  “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one.  Love the Lord your God with all your heart, and with all your soul, and with all your strength.  These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts.  Impress them on your children.  Talk about them with you sit at home, and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.  Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”

As believers and parents, we are all mandated by God to be the primary teachers of His Word to our children. WE are to be the teachers and we are to teach them DILIGENTLY, EVERYDAY, and in EVERY SITUATION.   We must first love the Lord and know His commands and then we are to pass them on to our children. We are the ones who will be ultimately responsible to the Lord for the raising of our children.  And that reality hit us HARD!  As we were studying that passage, we just kept coming back to the fact that we wouldn’t be the primary teachers of our children if we were handing them over to someone else for the majority of their waking hours in the day…. their good hours…. their impressionable hours.  We KNEW that we had to homeschool… for the hearts and minds of our kids.   We KNEW that being in school meant that our children were going to be “impressed” by many things and many worldviews… many which we wouldn’t want them to be “impressed” by.  It was easier to make a lasting “impression” on our children by choosing what they would and wouldn’t have access to.

The decision was made.  Even though we never thought we would, we entered the intimidating world of homeschooling.  We knew that this was the right decision for us…each of our friends and family have to make the decision for themselves, but the more we have studied, read and received counsel, we are convinced that this is the right thing for our family.  It isn’t easy, though.  There are some days that I am ready to pull my hair out before the kids pull it out – or turn it ALL GRAY!  There are good days too.  Lots of them… memories that are not soon forgotten….like making Viking Ships from cardboard boxes, singing Bible songs on the floor of the Living Room EVERY day, giggles when we make lunch together, listening to our three Bigs recite their Bible verses that they memorized this week – with the motions,  the two girls accepting Christ as their Savior, the silly games of memory or BINGO, seeing the bond that these four have..a true love, the maze of words that Hannah gets to review reading, or the sprouting popcorn kernel experiment.  All these plus MANY MANY more make it so rewarding. 

Our schooling isn’t exactly like the education that our kids would receive in “real school”.  We start our day with a study of Christian character and Bible lessons.  This is incorporated into the whole day… we are looking for ways to build their character and train them in the Word of God.  The goal of each week is to develop character in them… to get them further along in their spiritual journey.  That doesn’t mean that reading, math, science, history, handwriting and the like are not important.  But it does mean that they are not the most important thing.   Without the transforming work of the Spirit through the  Word of God, our efforts are in vain.  We are not trying to make brain surgeons, rocket scientists, or the first female president.   We just want to have children who love God, His Word and His world and desire to serve Him whole heartedly in everything!

Here are some pictures from a typical day at Lightner Christian Academy (yes, the girls didn’t brush their hair and they dressed themselves so the girls don’t match! Oh, well!  This is what life is REALLY like here!)

Caleb – 20 months old, showing you his snack!

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They all stop their work to take a few pics… ADORABLE!

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Why do we homeschool?  In short…We believe that the Lord has given us these four gifts to prepare them to be used for His kingdom.  That is a FULL TIME JOB.  We have decided that we MUST have them home with us so they can be fully trained… a job we believe that moms and dads are the most suitable for! It isn’t easy, but these four bundles are SO WORTH IT!

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And as a final note, schools are MUCH scarier these days that when we were kids – school safety issues and common core are REAL issues that each family needs to consider.  They didn’t play a primary role in our decision to home school, but I know that they do for some.

Wednesday, January 29, 2014

The Hundred Dresses

We started off our homeschooling week with a BANG!!  On Monday we went to the 9:30 showing of The Hundred Dresses by Eleanor Estes at the Des Moines Playhouse!  What a great show!  We had read the book earlier in the school year and signed up for tickets about 8 weeks ago when they were selling them at my homeschoolers meeting.  The girls were giddy with excitement and were SO happy that our neighbor, Amy, was able to go with us because I got a free ticket from a friend!

We had GREAT seats – they ALL are at the playhouse!  We were in the second row!

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The school room….

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Old Man Sevenson’s House…

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Maddie’s House…

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The photography skills of a four year old…

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We had a fantastic time…

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We always have fun at The Playhouse.  I can see the girls performing there in the future… Can’t you!  :)

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Can't get a word in edgewise!

It is no surprise to those of you who know our family that our girls are BIG into words.  They love to talk, they love to read, they love to sing.  They just love words... like their pastor daddy and teacher mommy.  We have been talking and reading to them since they were unborn.  They practically came out talking in full sentences... not really, but you get my point. From the time they were each 18 months I had a list of over 150 words  that they were each saying -- yes, saying and not just repeating!  CRAZY!
 
So by the time Josiah came along it was a little harder to get him to talk, but the girls loved working with him and getting him to repeat after them. They were teachers and he learned well.... just not as fast as the girls... partly because he is the third child and he is a boy.
 
AND THEN THERE IS CALEB... poor little guy he can't get a word in edgewise!  He has three siblings who talk ALL THE TIME!  It has been difficult to get him to talk.  We have read to him and talked to him, but he just hasn't caught on to the taking thing.  Most of the time we just know what he need by his grunts and pointing.  The girls and Josiah are good interpreters.
 
BUT.. Caleb has finally turned a corner and has begun to say real words... not just repeating what we say.  He is also able to point to things that we say -- things in books or parts of his body.  He is doing much better... I was a little worried for a little while.  He hasn't caught up to his siblings, but maybe if we have a few silent days where the bigs don't talk then Caleb will be able to shine!  Hmmmm... actually that sounds amazing!
 
Here is a small video that I took of Caleb and Grace from last week... pretty cute!  It really doesn't show all what he knows, but it is still cute to see Grace and Caleb together. :)
 

Saturday, January 25, 2014

I’m BAAAAACK!

So… where have I been?  Why haven’t I been in the blogging world for over a month?  Well, we have been busy, busy, busy!  Doing things like this…..

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And this….

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And this…

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And this….

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But now I am back!  I can’t promise that you will be caught up on all of the happenings of the Lightner Family from the last month, but I will do better at keeping you up to date on what is happening now… are you ready for this level of fun?  :)  I have had many of you ask for blog updates… so here you go!

Monday, December 2, 2013

And just like that… he is no longer a baby

Caleb started off this morning as my baby – my fourth child who likes to snuggle and bring us so much joy, but just like that… he is no longer a baby.  Why?  We cut his long unruly – but oh, so baby soft -- hair and he turned into a little boy… one with cute ears, a long neck and a thin face and eyes that seem even bigger than before!

Here he is BEFORE:

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And here he is AFTER (he wouldn’t sit very still – THAT didn’t change):

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So, he isn’t a baby any more.  He is growing up so fast and saying words and bossing me around like he owns this place!  He loves to play with.. and yes, I wrote WITH… his brother and sisters.  He believes that he can and should do everything they do.  He makes them laugh and they are so good to him.  We are blessed.

The three littlest… who really aren’t that little any more!!  :)

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For those who are wondering, now that he has his hair cut, I really think he looks like Riley and Carter and Uncle Adam.  He has that Vigue side of him coming out more – like Uncle Val and Grampa.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Selfishness comes naturally

In this day and age, selfishness just comes naturally.  We all have a bent to think of ourselves first and look out for NUMERO UNO.  ME!  ME FIRST!  It’s MINE!  Those are the all too often phrases that children and ADULTS all over the United States chime over and over each day… if not, each hour!

BUT I WANT TO BE DIFFERENT.  AND I WANT  MY KIDS TO THINK DIFFERENTLY!  And this is exactly what GOD wants for me and my family! Life is NOT ABOUT US… IT IS ABOUT GOD AND OTHERS.  Since this is not a natural response, we are in the process of reprogramming our hearts and the hearts of our children on a daily basis. 

One of the ways that we have found to do this in this season is through Operation Christmas Child.  It is a perfect way for our children to see that life is more about ME and all about YOU.  It started at Josiah’s birthday party. Instead of our guests bringing a present for him, we asked for them to bring an item to add to Josiah’s shoe box.  He totally understood that these things were for his box and NOT for him – things like small toys, toothpaste, soap, crayons, etc.  Then we bought other items to add to each of the kids’ boxes to make four in all.  The kids also used their chore money that they put in their “GIVE” jar each week for the OCC offering at church each week.  Many weeks the girls gave ALL their chore money for OCC… talk about UNSELFISHNESS!  They also completed MANY extra chores to get more offering money.

You see, they are starting to have more of an OTHER’S focus and are happily giving what they have for others.  AND IT WARMS MY HEART! 

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The whole crew….

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Happy Thanksgiving!

One of the benefits of homeschooling is you can talk about God all day long and in every situation!  You can tell Bible stories, train your children in the Word and discipline them by the Word!  It truly is the best way we have found to train Christian children!

This week has been a light week for school...we have done many Thanksgiving projects, baked food for our meal on Thursday, and read many books!  BUT...we have also memorized Psalm 100 -- a perfect Psalm of praise to the Lord for this season and a great way to culminate our study on contentment for the month of November!

Enjoy seeing the girls recite it... make sure to watch til the end for their silliness!